Being Closed UP

There needs to be a time where i come out and say who i am
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Posted: 19-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

What do you mean?

SheBear

Posted: 19-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

How about now?

Posted: 19-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

Hiya Yperez,

If you mean that you need to come out to friends and family, then the hardest part is over!

Coming out to yourself is tough... Then just talking to people about it, it gets easier, honest!

Start with your best mate, after you have said it to a few people you will feel liberated and realise that most of the problem is in being able to say it. Of course you may have some serious issues to deal with... your parents may get very upset, some 'friends' may disappear... But new ones will take their place, but honestly that happens in life anyways.

If your parents do fly off the handle and say some very hurtful things, just walk away for a while, they will need time to adjust... Their little girl is growing up and not sticking to the rules that they thought they knew!!

I hope that coming out is what you are referring to and I haven't misunderstood?

I wish you luck, there are many women on here who will be willing to offer you support and encouragement... we've all been through it (some of us a bit longer ago than others)

hugs

Kaz
xx

Posted: 19-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

11:30am ? *chortle*

Posted: 20-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

yperez... yes there does need to be a time to open up and be free to express who you are. As you are in the process of thinking/pondering it... no doubt the time will have to arrive soon. What we focus on we manifest.
Perhaps people close to you are already reading this energy within you now.
Unless of course you have been completely closed about it in which case you could be fed up with, your pretense, feelings... eg guilt and the situation this has created within you and around you.
Family can be very demanding at times with their expectations for a member of 'the tribe' to meet the 'conditions of membership'. All manner of ammunition can come out to make you conform.... religion is the biggie, also 'grandma rolling over in her grave if she only knew.'
Friends can disown you in a heartbeat. If they do then it was a very enlightening heartbeat as their friendship was there all along but with conditions.

Just know that you're not the only one in the world going through this period of discovery and affirmation of the self and many more have been there done, walked, ran, cried and sacrificed much on that journey.
An advantage is to have parents that will accept you as an individual instead of an extension of themselves. It can be a battle of egos where they are not willing to accept your ideas of who you are as you unfold into adulthood... You could get the 'we know what's better for you'.

I hope you can contact others who are or have been through this and live close by your area. It will be beneficial to establish friends who can identify with what you are experiencing and be supportive of your efforts in real time/real life and not just online. You may find a new tribe....
You get to be you when nothing else matters.
Cheers
...keep asking... keep searching

Do what you will, this world's a fiction and is made up of contradiction.
William Blake

Posted: 20-Jul-2009

Re: Being Closed UP

hey ur really cute n shud say what u feel n what u r dont b ashamed

Posted: 16-Apr-2010