Had enough of being single

I am a single femme that has had enough of the single life into butch/femme relationships but alas it still aludes me true love does it even exist anymore.

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Hey You,

It hurts my heart hearing you so sad.......

DON'T you DARE give up on finding someone - you're too much of a sweetheart and babe to throw the towel in yet Foxy.....

I completely agree with you that it IS a jungle out there - and there are lots that will say the same....

We gotta get you out on the town young lady....There's a few girls nights coming up that you should consider maybe heading out to... There's also a LOT of bois/butches on here that NEEDED the wake-up call you just posted....

Don't give up. You're too good for that.

Scoobs x

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Scoobs .... That was really lovely thing to say and I agree.

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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aahhh...never say never ShyFox. you never know what or who is around the corner  
...and i do believe that there's true love out there for everyone.
we all deserve the wonderful things that life holds for us and that includes you.
there are pros ad cons to every situation...keep the positives in focus and let the negatives slip by.
don't give up. take it easy...

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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I get fed up with being single... well, at least once a day these days, but what can you do. If nobody want's me then nobody want's me.

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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I do feel upset about being single.. and do yearn for that special someone to come into my life... but then again, whenever I think of my own current circumstance and the choices that I've made, I can't help but wonder who would ever have the courage to want to share life with me...

If any reader does not know what I am talking about, go read my profile...

I really just feel like giving up hope on ever finding anyone...

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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oh lira and HRC...your replies are so negative...everyone has the option to change their views on things and to really change their lives if they wish to. some of the best things in life take time...however it doesn't mean you have to give up and to think it's not going to happen.

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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I haven't had enough of being single quite yet. I get to do what I want when I want without someone getting snippy and asking a ton of questions such as where ya going what are you doing etc or try (key word here is try) to boss me aroubd. I enjoy my life and am not ashamed to say it. I am not even dating right now don't have the time. I read a lot, am an artist, have lots of family close by and furr babies. Enjoy each moment you have by yourself and get to know yourself........

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Darling Single Sirens - we're single.... And that ACTUALLY presents a LOT of opportunities for us......

DON'T keep feeling/thinking it's the worst thing to be.....

YES it's hard, and YEP we get lonely at times.... BUT -

We can go out whatever night we want, and mix with WHOEVER we want..... (if we have the cash of course)....

We can sit here on the sofa and meet/talk/flirt/muck around with whoever we want - without guilt or restrictions....

And all of THAT is how we will meet the " right one" one day .....

This is the first full year I've been single since 1991.

And yep, MASSIVE learning curve, LOTS of ouches and tears and woe is me...BUT -

While I met great friends and people as a partner; the people I've met as a single person have been AWESOME.....

NOT sexually, just the freedom of hanging back, talking to whoever, anything like that - I have met some AMAZING chicks and people.....

When you're in a partnership, you gotta get home. You can't sit here or anywhere til 4 in the morning. You can't delve deeper into things and experiences that you WOULDN'T have as a partner......

I'm NOT saying singledom is perfect - I'm just trying to spin a positive slant on this.....

I have met a LIFE-CHANGING woman while I've been single; as in mind, outlook, approach, opinions, ALL of it - life-changing... If I wasn't single, I wouldn't have met her; and I can't imagine her not in my life now in WHATEVER capacity....I totally love her, and owe her a lot, she's one of the best things that has EVER happened to me.....

BECAUSE of her, I have dared to meet and talk to OTHERS on here - and THEY have ALSO changed my life......I talk and express more of myself than I ever have. And so far - so good....

Stay positive. Meet people. Learn to be you again. Learn to feel and let some of it out....

And embrace the freedom as it matters right now to us.

You WON'T be single forever - the fact that you're so honest, and wanting to express yourselves means that you will be heard. And you WILL be heard and noticed - it is only TIME - NOT a matter of NEVER.....

Take care of each other,

Scoobs x

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Only thing that makes me sad re being single at times is not enough sex ..  I like the fem/boyish woman btw lol xx

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Thanks scoobs you have lifted my spirits darlin.

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Shy, I KNOW how hard it is to feel like this - I'm with you 100%....

i just CAN'T see you give in babe.

That's all - DON'T ....

STAY here, POST more - MAKE yourself know Shy -PLEASE......

Stay and be heard xxxx

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Fabulous reply scoobsy!

I do feel that a lot is related to how long one has been single too.

I was single for around ten years (and pretty much celibate for most of it .. my choice though).

Yes it gets lonely. But you are never really alone. There are plenty of souls who just want to connect without all the stuff that goes with "relationship". There is friendship. There are caring spaces you can direct your energies.

I do understand when you are tired of it though, so I don't see that as negative really .... it just means you are ready for something else in your life perhaps? So then, if you have had enough of the single life .. then put yourself and your dreams out there and make the move towards connecting with someone. Just beware of jumping in too soon in haste for company if you are lonely. Search your motivations.

Maggie x

Posted: 26-Jun-2010

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Shyfox the 1 thing I v learnt from a friend is that never say never, I used to think the same way,now im meeting ppl through my interest horseriding,i once gave up but I looked in the mirror and that I like myself also I want 2 get to know other lesbians if anything happens great if not then mates/friends. Im interested startin social group without no pressure,im 38 but feel 21 inside/out. Always stay positive that special lesbian cld walk into ur life any day. Tg    

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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Being single is ok too - better than being "in a relationship" where you never see her, there is no contact/connection or you are unhappy and perplexed. When you are single you at least know where you stand and you have to be your own best friend in a way. Looking for love has its many mysteries and intrigues but standing on the solid ground of self sufficiency is important too.
l2f

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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Dont worry scoobs im not going anywhere im staying right here on sofa and keeping you company. And maybe the right boi just might come along and renew my faith in true love ha thats a laugh but hey got to laugh at something. I just dont know why bois have this thing where they like to feed s**t to honest loving femms make them feel all good inside loved and wanted then in the next instance not loved at all bois are a very confusing species.

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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Shy (and others)... my disclaimer up front: I'm single and love it, so in a very different space to yours.  

But being single, I hang out with lots of single people - bois, butches and femmes. Mostly, even if they're enjoying being single for a while, they're really aiming for a relationship.  Some are tired of single and really yearning to settle down; some are happy still to cruise til something falls in their lap (sometimes literally!); others think they don't really want it then, suddenly, wham... and they're off.  

Sounds like right now for you, Shy,  you'd probably identify with the first group.  So I guess the strategy is to keep yourself 'out there' in the ways that are most comfortable for you (I really think the Sofa is a great place for that), but don't lose sight of the good things you can enjoy now.  I think Scoobs has done a pretty good job of describing some of those.

Being single and being in a relationship both offer compromise and joy. Either way, there may be times when we feel at a loss or unsure or like we're not quite living to our max.  Other times, there's comfort and love and pleasure.  I've experienced all those things both in being single and in being in a committed relationship.  Neither is the solution to everything; neither is in itself a bad state.

It's a great step that you're here.  It's a great step that you're putting yourself out there in the forums, where you can really get noticed and get some interactions going. I'll bet you've had some personal messages since you posted this thread.  Am I right?

And if it's bois that rock your boat, you're on the right sea... as you're probably discovering right now, there are amazing bois here, who offer wonderful positive boi energy, a desire to care for (and pleasure ) a woman, and to share a commitment to something special.  

They're here.  You'll connect.  Judging by your photo, you're too much of a babe and look well too hot with that bike of yours to be ignored by just the kind of bois you're looking for.  Have fun with it.  And the rest will follow.

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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No Rocky your not right at all had no personal msg at all since posting,.

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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Foxy, it's Saturday - wait til the dry buggers get home tomorrow......

I REFUSE to let YOU give up.

Quite adamant actually.

If you don't get a PM by the end of this week, I'll eat my favourite ruggers beanie...

And that's BIG - cos 1 ) I don't eat, and 2) I LOVE my fave beanie......

xxx

Posted: 27-Jun-2010

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Amazing and not so amazing some here are not at all truethful but i suppose you get that

Posted: 27-Jun-2010