met a player lately???

They seem to be everywhere

Where are all the decent women who actually know what they want and are honest about it?

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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well i know i want a vegan brownie and a hot choc  lol

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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Here I am Scorp!

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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there u go it's a purrfect match!!    u ladies get cosy i'm going out for cocoa!!!!  lol

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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we are here, im decent and single

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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Not sure they actually exist scorp.  They seem to know what they want "at the time".   No one ever means to hurt anyone else..  they just don't know themselves well enough..  so it's a case of "sorry"...  

Don't know what to tell you.. I have just learned to take most women's words wtih a huge grain of salt..  

Cheers,

-D

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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Nobody means to hurt anyone else? Are you living in Utopia, Darcy?

Some women could not give a s**t who they hurt and deliberately set out to do just that to boost their pathetic egos. Sad to be them...

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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People change, feelings morph, relationships shift - nothing stays the same - and in the process what you wanted at one point, you may not want as time goes on - but it's not that you want to intentionally hurt the other person...

On the flip side, agree with CLBE, in that some bois/girls just have no conscience in their dealings with others in the game of lurve...

~Aquarius

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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This may not be true for everyone, but I believe that when people put things like looks, social status, money, height, weight etc etc over personality and sense of humour, then they are bound to become disappointed in love. This can lead to boredom and someone seeking fun elsewhere, when they realise that they got into a relationship for the wrong reasons..

I also think as Ive said above that perhaps some peoples standards are set way too high in the beginning- and when there is no substance in a relationship cos its all based on superficial things, its all too hard to maintain on a long term basis.

sqn

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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CLBE..  Ouch..    Just Ouch...



-D  

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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Hang on......What is a player?  Someone who wants fun, sets out the terms and conditions of the type of relationship and then gets someone trying to change it all after a while?

Having fun does not mean that they are a player, does it???

Posted: 27-Feb-2010

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I am single and decent

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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I find it ironic that everyone puts on their profile they are caring, kind, treat others like they want to be treated themselves, blah, blah, blah but aren't caring or polite enough to reply to a friendly message. Also what gives women the right to think that just because they don't know you, they can use the medium of the internet to judge you, be cruel and screw with your mind!

 

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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@Manderley

Perhaps the "players" are the one's who don't set out the terms and conditions up front, but string people along on false hopes etc etc.

Being honest and having fun would not make a player, in my opinion.

Perhps CLBE is right, and there really are those who go out of their way to mess with people's heads, but I think that would be a very small minority (thank goodness) with narcissistic and other personality disorders.

I like to think most people are generally just being human beings, engaging with others,having fun and attempting to find people they connect with, which sometimes has an effect of forming dis-connections too. The wounded party may then feel they have been "played", but ultimately said wounded party perhaps just needs some chill time.

Maggie.

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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I am afraid I don't have the optimism about women that some of you do.

I would suggest there are more than "some" who "play" others. I would say many.

Some get a thrill out of getting attention from a woman they are not even interested in. There are some VERY calculating women out there.

It disturbs me to see older women doing that...when you would hope they have learnt better. No different to the straight world, I suppose.

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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awww CLBE i'm way old, so old I forgot to go home for 2 months, I've forgotten whats a player....lol

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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I hear what you are saying canlovebezy .. and I feel sad that you have had so many bummed-out online experiences, if that's what you are getting at.

Sometimes though, our heads are a little messy, or perhaps our hearts, and we can read wrong intentions? Maybe there is not always a calculating mind behind a PM, but just another mind trying to interact in cyberspace, flirt around a bit, test the waters? If we respond we do always open ourselves up to "rejection". But it need not be personal, given the medium we are communicating with. We don't always click with others, and neither should there be a need to.

I dunno, but I think we all need to take some responsibility for our interactions with others and not read negativity into all that we see. It can be hard at times, I admit .. but we are all human beings and we are all different. I don't think people should be so harsh to judge internet "strangers" just because they are not into you.

Just some thoughts, not criticisms
Maggie

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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pmsl maz

maggie

It is NOT just the internet and it is NOT just my experiences...don;t get me wrong...I have obviously met many wonderful woman and I have the best friends in the universe.

I have experienced, seen and heard many horror stories.

Yes, we can take things the wrong way. My last experience in getting to know somebody showed her to be a calculating witch and she has serious problems.

I am just realistic, I suppose...time to bring my romantic fantasies down to earth lol

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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Fair call CLBE. That side of things probably is very similar to Real Life .. the horror stories that is.

Cheers

Posted: 28-Feb-2010

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maggie

I see you are in a relationship...drats...missed out again lol

Hope it goes well (hugs)

Posted: 28-Feb-2010